Ever wonder why the maidens rush to catch the bouquet when the bride throws it? It is believed that whoever catches it will be the next to marry!
Although it is a Western practice imported into the Nigerian white wedding tradition, it is believed by many. That is why it is still practiced to this day.
But an Abuja-based marriage counselor, Ms. Gloria Charles, who spoke with THE WHISTLEHe said that the practice is not based on reality.
“Marriage is a thing of grace. Yes, there are situations where a bridesmaid receiving a bouquet of flowers gets married, but that often comes from a place of grace and faith and is not necessarily a forced occurrence.
“I know a bride who was recently married and intentionally gave her daughters 5 roses as she prayed to God for them to get married, but as we speak only two of them are married so it’s all about grace and faith. ,” She explained.
wedding night sex love show
Tradition has glorified wedding night sex and puts a lot of pressure on couples to be perfect.
While married moms and older women often set very high standards for how much sex couples need to have to make their wedding night memorable, the reality can often be quite different.
Ms. Nancy Feromi, a business analyst in Abuja, shared with THE WHISTLE how their wedding night went, contrary to traditional expectations.
According to her, there is no rule for this as everyone is different. “On my wedding night, my husband and I were so overjoyed that we went back to our hotel room. In my head, I was ready to play the sex tape I had learned from my mom and aunts to give her a good ride, but we opened the champagne while we were dancing and I got so tired I fell asleep.
“We didn’t have sex until a week later, when we went home and went back to our normal lives.”
Bride Price Save Marriages
In many cultures of the country, it is believed that when a man pays the bride price, it means that he values his wife and that the marriage will be protected.
Ms. Charles said that many people believe it is a way to safeguard the marriage, while others believe it is a way to sell their daughters cheaply.
“The rules of bride price and amount differ between tribes, but most people see it as a symbolic sign that you can take care of their daughter, something I don’t agree with because there are men who pay and they still treat his wife badly.
“In most weddings I have planned, this money is often returned to the groom’s family as a sign that they are not selling their daughter.”
For Oriente, he explained that couples have no say in what is done with the bride price.
“The bride and groom have no say when it comes to the bride price stage. In most cases, the future partner does not even know when it is paid.
“If the bride is summoned, it is only to confirm that she is still interested in the groom”
In the case of a beauty expert, Ms. Wunmi Bankole, her family gave her the money. “I got my bride price back after the wedding. I was so happy to spend it with my husband.”
Bad luck for the bride and groom to see each other before the wedding
It is believed that if the couples see each other before the wedding, it could bring luck and ruin the wedding.
But wedding consultant Ms Laura Iyene revealed that modern couples have embraced the “first look” experience, where they officially see each other before the ceremony.
She said: “This belief no longer exists in our current days that everyone is smart and knows what they want. This superstitious belief or, as you call it, myth, existed when marriages were still commercial transactions between families.
“So, to prevent couples in an arranged marriage from changing their minds, they kept out of each other’s sight.”
Ms. iyene said that it has become so cool that you can choose which of these customs and conventions you want to adopt or discard.