kathy hilton he is trying to support his daughter Paris on her pregnancy journey, and while her heart is in the right place, the way she broaches the subject is hurtful and hurtful to women struggling with infertility.
The heiress recently said Y! News from Paris and her husband Carter Reum’s alleged struggle to conceive, “It breaks my heart because I know she’s trying and trying and I always say, ‘Just relax.’ Many people struggle and it doesn’t happen that way”.
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Clearly Kathy is trying to be supportive, but there are some issues with what she said. First of all, “just relax” is ridiculously useless advice to anyone trying to get pregnant. In an article by The cutthe problem is clearly expressed: “The problem, however, is that stress alone is unlikely to be the sole cause of sterility; if she has a condition that affects her ability to get pregnant or maintain a pregnancy, no amount of de-stressing will cure her.”
The article goes on to share that as early as the 5th century B.C. C., “the psychological state of a woman [was tied] to her reproductive abilities”, and that it was widely believed that “hysteria” could render a woman “sterile”. The maddeningly inaccurate idea is still deeply embedded in society’s patriarchally oriented mind, and Kathy Hilton’s comments about her daughter are proof of that.
Jennifer “Jay” Palumbo, director of member engagement at Progyny, a New York-based fertility benefits company, likened the notion of a person trying to conceive and being told to relax to a person with diabetes trying to want your medical condition to go away. she said in a interview, “It’s like telling a diabetic who has high blood sugar, ‘Don’t worry about it, just relax. Go on vacation and your sugar levels and your insulin will be fixed. It’s illogical. He went on to explain that infertility is almost always attributed to a medical condition that affects the ability to conceive, which “has nothing to do with state of mind and meditation.” It seems so comically obvious, but alas, here we are breaking it down once again.
The other troubling thing about Kathy’s statement to ME! it’s just not her place to share such sensitive information, even as the mother of her daughter. If Paris wants to share her journey publicly, it’s her decision and no one else’s. In fact, what Kathy said isn’t even true, according to Paris. When she was asked about her mother’s claims about her TMZThe newlywed said she has no idea where her mother got that idea from and shared that she and Reum have embryos “stocked up” and ready to go when the time is right.
The entertainment mogul also took to her Instagram Stories to clarify the situation, writing: “I get tons of messages from people asking when I’m having a baby. The truth is that my husband and I wanted to enjoy our first year of marriage together as a couple and we were always planning to start a family in 2023.”
Paris continued: “IVF is always a journey for everyone, but we are so lucky to have so many healthy embryos ready and waiting to be a part of our Cutesy Crew! As everyone knows, I have an extremely busy work and travel schedule, but nothing excites me more than becoming a mom in 2023! While, again, her mother’s heart was in the right place, it did open a huge can of worms for Paris, who felt she had to address the onslaught of comments and questions about Kathy’s infertility claims, and that’s not right. .
Public speculation about one person’s efforts to conceive en masse penetrates the limits of respect and privacy, and Paris isn’t the only one having to address claims about her journey to motherhood. In her cover story with Seduce, Jennifer Aniston opened up about the pain and fatigue she’s experienced over the years, and is yet experiencing, regarding public comments about her ability and desire to become a mother.
“All the years and years and years of speculation… It was really hard,” he shared. “It was going through IVF, drinking Chinese teas, whatever. She was throwing everything at him. She would have given anything if someone had told me, ‘Freeze your eggs.’ Do yourself a favour.’ You just don’t think so. So here I am today. The ship has sailed.
She continued, “[The] narrative [was] that it was just selfish. I only cared about my career. And God forbid that a woman succeeds and she does not have a child. And the reason why my husband left me, why we broke up and ended our marriage, was because he would not give her a child. They were absolute lies. I have nothing to hide right now.”
Aniston explained her frustration with the rumor mill vitriol and how wildly inappropriate it is to engage in a casual conversation about a woman’s (in)fertility, saying, “Therefore, that op-ed I wrote [for The Huffington Post in 2016]. I thought, ‘I have to write this because it’s so maddening and I’m not superhuman to the point of not letting it sink in and hurt.'”
The op-ed to which she refers is an iconic scolding she delivered to the media and the general public for her obsession with her being (or not being) pregnant, along with the general objectification and dissection of women in the society in general. Aniston wrote: “For the record, I’m No pregnant. what i am is Fed up. I’m sick of the sports scrutiny and body shaming that happens daily in the guise of ‘journalism’, the ‘First Amendment’ and ‘celebrity news.’”
She continued: “This past month in particular has enlightened me on how much we define a woman’s worth based on her marital and maternal status. The sheer amount of resources the press is spending right now simply trying to find out if I’m pregnant or not (for the umpteenth time… but who’s counting) points to the perpetuation of this notion that women are somehow incomplete. , unsuccessful or unhappy if you are not married and have children.
She ended her essay, which you should definitely read in its entirety, writing: “I may become a mother one day, and since I’m putting it all out there, if I ever do, I’ll be the first to let you know. But I’m not looking for the motherhood because I feel incomplete in some way, as our celebrity news culture would have us all believe.”
Let’s focus on “I may become a mother one day, and since I’m putting it all out there, if I ever do, I’ll be the first to let you know.” That last one, “I’ll be the first to let you know” it’s the simplest and most poignant way to get the message across to Paris, Aniston, and all the other women who are constantly asked about having a baby. They will be the first to share the news with the world if it happens and they feel comfortable sharing that private information. Until then, keep your mouth respectfully shut about a womb that isn’t yours.
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