Tika Sumpter reveals the limits she sets to preserve her mental health

Tika Sumpter shares how she makes time to take care of herself and the importance of positive self-talk.  (Photo: Getty; designed by Quinn Lemmers)

Tika Sumpter shares how she makes time for self-care and the importance of positive self-talk. (Photo: Getty; designed by Quinn Lemmers)

Between animated movie roles, a flourishing podcast and raising a young daughter, Tika Sumpter is used to having her hands full 24/7. But there’s one thing the busy actress always makes time for, and that’s herself.

“Sometimes I think I can’t do any more. I’m going to take a shower in the middle of the day,” Sumpter tells Yahoo Life.

the mixed star is a big advocate for self-care, especially for moms who often feel pressured to be everything to everyone, a goal not on Sumpter’s radar.

“I completely took the pressure off myself, motherhood-wise. Like, I said, ‘Okay, I’m not going to live up to all the standards that have been put in our past, like being there all the time, every moment. ‘”, she says. Instead, Tika relies on her support system, allowing her to come across as the most current version of herself.

“I have an amazing husband, who is very involved with our son, so I allow him to be a father,” she says.

Sumpter, 42, shares daughter Ella-Loren, 5, with husband Nick James, and has made sure her daughter understands the importance of boundaries from a young age.

“Even if Ella says, ‘Mom, come do this,’ I’m like, ‘I can’t, I don’t have it anymore,’ and I’m like, ‘I’m done. I can’t, I’m done for today,'” she says.

This isn’t the only self-care lesson Sumpter has begun to instill in her daughter, revealing that the two practice affirmations regularly.

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“Ever since I was a little girl, I started saying, ‘I’m smart,’ and she’s like, ‘I’m smart, I’m beautiful,’ all those things,” Sumpter says, adding that she hopes the positive self-talk will stick with her daughter to as it grows. “I just want to put all the positive goodness in her head, that she is all these things, so that when the world tells her she’s not, the internal dialogue automatically goes back to ‘I know I am these things that my mother and father tell me. instilled,'” he says.

In addition to the affirmations, Sumpter shares that her daughter is a huge fan of meditation.

“She watched me meditate and now she’s set up an ‘office’ where she takes me to meditate. She walks me through spoken meditations… I’m like, no one is going to believe me,” says Sumpter.

Positive self-talk has also been a key component of mental wellness for Sumpter, who remembers realizing the dangers of negative self-talk in her 30s.

“I finally checked in with my body and how I felt and how it was connected to what I was thinking and how I was actually talking to myself,” she says.

While mental health and social media have a complicated relationship, to say the least, Sumpter acknowledges the sense of empowerment it can bring to those struggling to defend themselves.

“It’s given people a pass and the grace to say, ‘You know what? I’m going to unplug for today,’ or ‘I can’t take this moment and it’s okay and I’m okay to take good care of myself.’ now and make it about me,'” she says.

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As co-creator of Sugarberry, an audio media company first Focused on the mental well-being of black women, Tika rejects the notion that black women have to try too hard to be of value to those around them.

“I think for so long, especially black women, we always held each other up and forgot about ourselves. So I think when sorority women tell each other that it’s okay to let go for a while, there’s something about giving it permission to someone. she says.

In terms of extending grace to herself, Sumpter found it effective to approach her self-talk as if she were speaking helpfully to a loved one, rather than to herself.

“Don’t talk to yourself the way you wouldn’t talk to your friend, I always tell my friends when they beat themselves up ‘don’t talk to my friend that way,'” she says.

Affirmations and musings aside, Sumpter acknowledges that stress cannot be entirely avoided in the world we live in and has been associated with the American Heart Association to address the link between stress and increased risk of heart disease and stroke.

“My mental health is everything, especially with what’s going on in the world today,” she says. “And teaming up with the American Heart Association to talk about stress and risks, solutions and how they apply to our own lives is so important. Between family, work and finances and obviously the news in all senses, people in the United States and the rest of the world are more stressed than ever.”

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